I Try SO Hard!

First of all, good sunday morning to you all. I'm being tested on how much patience I can muster this morning. I've been having a hard time keeping the daytime, sunday nurse shift  regular. This has actually been going on now for about 2 years. Ever since I fired my old, regular sunday day nurse shift. She had accused me of being to blame for why my ex-left me!(of course, she was drunk at the time, we were in Florida, it was really something) anyways,  I sounded just like Donald Trump on that one..."you're fired!!!"
SO, it seems like I just get someone that I actually like all settled into my sunday routines and they start having too many family committments etc. on sundays..no one likes to work sundays. I get it, but my sunday routines are really so easy! So, back to this morning. Mind you, I have given constructive criticism to this nurse maybe 3 times already before...even on her meet and greet! I had to do  it yet again this morning. Whenever I ask for the simplest of things, she comes back at me with a question. Kind of like a hovering helicopter parent. Do you need this, do you need that? Do you want this, do you want that? QUESTIONS! I've come right out and told her, don't ask me questions, I will tell you what I need. So this morning, I gave her the little speech about how I don't like to be constantly perceived as a patient. Told her everytime she asks me ?'s , I'm reminded of just that. I have to give you an example...of the hovering and trying too hard part...I asked her for a simple piece of wheat toast with peanut butter, no xtra butter, please. She comes back with "light or dark? peanut butter spread to the edges? cut in half? with a napkin? coffee? do you want it set here, or on your lap? on the bed, the tray table?" arrrrrrrrrgh! I looked at her like are you kidding me? I just gave you my speech about how I don't need things perfect, I'm a real person and I will tell you what I need!!!!!! Usually, I have a fine attitude toward a new nurse and am not afraid to come right out and tell you what I need, but what do you do when someone just won't bend their usual habits? I've also told her that a nurse in a hospital wouldn't ask you a million questions, they just do it, you know?  So, I'm lucky to have my Mom come over today and take me over to her house for games and kabobs. I can get out of the house without her. The nurse called my house the other day and got my son on the phone. She came out and asked him what his plans were for sunday afternoon...meaning if he was here with me, she wanted an early out...she wanted to know if she would be able to make plans....I have let her go a couple of hours early before, so she maybe thought it would happen every shift? I  don't know, just don't call my son and give him all of the details on your plans for your sunday shift, that you only work every other sunday for me! It's another little ticking time bomb I'm afraid with this one. I just can't stand it...I've tried so hard to guide her along with what I need from her, but it is getting more annoying than ever. I hope I don't sound too ungrateful. I do pray about this...A LOT and need my old ways of letting little things go come back. Do I sound like a control freak? or is the winter just getting to me?